This time of year can be stressful for some. There’s so much to do as the Holidays draw near and the year comes to an end.
It can be hard to slow down and let that special someone know you’re grateful for them. Be it a planned vacation at Cannon Beach (find some interesting facts about what to do in Cannon Beach, OR, according to Oregon Beach Vacations) or some alone time, there are countless ways to make it up to your partner and express your gratitude!
Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a licensed marriage and sex therapist and resident sex expert for www.AdamandEve.com has provided a four tips for busy parents to make time for each other this holiday season.
- 1. Parents have to learn to become opportunists when it comes to sex. There are too many couples who wait for the stars to align for the perfect tryst and then it never happens. Decide to prioritize sex by getting it in whenever you can, be it in the shower or under the sheet before your kids raid your bed in the morning. Sometimes focusing on a little quantity will improve the quality of your sex. Make use of toys and adult VR devices to spice up the act. As someone said, you only live once, so give each other the best pleasure possible!
- 2. Removing the expectation of orgasm for each time you have sex can be freeing for parents. Parents should focus more on enjoying and trying new things. For instance, while men can learn the best way to eat pussy to make their lady love satisfied, women, on the other hand, can learn how to play with the penis and the balls to reward their men with the ultimate satisfaction. Learning to focus on sensation and enjoying the multitude of benefits from foreplay and sex can help you build arousal and not be focused on “getting it done.”
- 3. Do something, anything different. Research by the Gottman Institute suggests that those sexual relationships that maintain spontaneity in their relationships last longer with higher levels of satisfaction. Therapeutically, I have found that learning to be spontaneous can involve small changes that have a big payoff. Anything from having sex on the other side of the bed, to a quick hand job in the car while you are in the driveway accomplishes this. If you want, you can also buy sex toys for each other, such as a vibrator, dildo, a Real Sex Doll, or male masturbator, options are endless. Sexual experiments can be arousing for the couple and help to keep the relationship exciting and satisfying.
- 4. Screens and technology tend to take up an inordinate amount of time. It can make us less present in our relationships and therefore less likely to have sex. Learn to put your phone down by dinnertime each night and never bring it to bed with you.
How do you make time for your partner? Will these tips work for you?
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